The Journey to Wholeness: When God Uses Brokenness to Bring You Back to Yourself

By LaToya A Hollie

Sometimes, God allows rejection to lead us to revelation. More than a decade ago, I walked through one of the most painful seasons of my life—divorce. My heart was broken, my faith was shaken, and I questioned everything I thought I knew about love, purpose, and identity.

What I didn’t realize then was that the very pain that broke me was the same pain that would lead me to healing. That difficult season became the beginning of my journey toward becoming a Whole Woman. It all started with one powerful word: surrender.

The Beginning of Surrender

My journey didn’t truly begin the day I signed divorce papers. It began years earlier when I surrendered my life to Jesus Christ. Healing didn’t come from self-help books, affirmations, or “finding myself.” It began with salvation.

Jesus said, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me… He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives…” (Luke 4:18–19, NKJV). He came not only to save us but to make us whole again. He came to restore the pieces of us that life has scattered.

Wholeness isn’t about perfection; it’s about surrender. It’s not about having everything together; it’s about giving everything to God. For years, I thought healing meant working harder, praying longer, or proving my worthiness.  My true healing began the moment I stopped striving and simply let Jesus in.

I’ll never forget one quiet evening in 2004. I sat on the edge of my bed, tears streaming down my face, my heart heavy with questions I couldn’t answer. I wasn’t asking Jesus “why.” I was asking Him to come in. That moment changed everything. I didn’t need answers. I needed His presence.

That night marked the start of something transformative. Healing had begun, and not because I was fixed, but because I was found.

Still, full surrender didn’t come easily. Three years later, in 2007, I found myself emotionally drained, spiritually dry, and mentally unraveling. In that moment I remember the words I heard God spoke to me years prior, “You can always come home.”

That whisper was my lifeline. It wasn’t a call back to a place…it was a call back to Him. And that’s when my true healing journey began.

The Power of Salvation

Salvation is more than a prayer…it’s a turning point. It’s when we stop trying to fix ourselves and allow Jesus to restore us. Salvation not only delivers us from sin; but it also delivers us from ourselves, and from shame, lies, and false identities.

In John 5:6, Jesus asked the man at the pool, “Do you want to be made whole?” That question still echoes today. Do we really want to be made whole? Because wholeness requires honesty. It demands that we let God into the places we’ve hidden.

Years later, during my divorce, I attended a Bible empowerment session. The speaker said something that pierced my soul: “To be single means to be whole.”

In that moment, something shifted inside me. I realized I had been living in pieces…broken by rejection, drained by performance, and defined by pain. But God was calling me back to myself. Back to Him. Back to wholeness.

Facing the Lie

Healing began when I stopped blaming everyone else and faced the truth about my own brokenness. I had to take a good look at myself and say “God, it’s me. I’m hurting. I need You.”

When I got honest, God began to reveal the deeper issues: I had been living my life based on lies. “You’re not enough,” “You’ll never be loved,” “You don’t matter.” Those lies shaped my choices and how I allowed others to treat me.

In prayer, I once asked God why I kept repeating the same painful patterns. His response was gentle but firm: “Because you’re still living like you’re unworthy of more.”

That truth broke me and freed me. I realized I knew Scripture, I knew how to serve, but I didn’t know how to believe I was worthy. I had mistaken brokenness for humility. However, God showed me His kind of wholeness doesn’t require perfection…it requires surrender.

Healing isn’t instant. It takes prayer, reflection, and sometimes counseling. Every time you choose truth over a lie, you reclaim another piece of yourself.

Even when I felt unseen, God saw me. Even when I felt forgotten, He was still writing my story.

Becoming Whole

Wholeness isn’t a destination; it’s a daily walk with God. It’s choosing to believe His truth over the enemy’s lies. It’s finding peace in the process and strength in the surrender.

Today, I’m still becoming, but I walk in freedom, knowing my worth isn’t tied to what I’ve lost, or who I used to be. My worth is rooted in who I am in Christ.

So, if you find yourself broken, rejected, or uncertain, know this: God hasn’t forgotten you. He’s calling you back. Not only to Himself, but to your true self.

Your journey to wholeness begins where all true healing begins…
 At the feet of Jesus.